It was my day off today. My son didn't have school, so I slept in a little, eventually rolled out of bed and thought, "What should I do today?". It's a loaded question, I know. I can come up with a list as long as my arm in the first 30 seconds that I'm awake.
I should probably exercise, read my bible and pray, clean my house, make some soup, plan dinner, do laundry, work on my blog, read the book I'm currently reading, call one of my sisters, spend time with my sons, watch Dancing with the Stars, wash the windows, do some decluttering, look into the cost of our cable package, check out my budget, pay some bills, and the list goes on on and is seemingly endless.
It's overwhelming, and I think this is how life passes me by. I don't plan ahead and then I accomplish very little. It's now time to start making dinner, and I feel like I've wasted another day. I think it would have been better to have rolled out of bed this morning with a manageable list already prepared. I could have gotten up and been able to tackle the priorities that were already laid out for me and still had some time to enjoy my day off.
The trouble with winging it is I don't always feel like doing some of the things on my giant mental list and I am really good at talking myself out of them. Other things on my list I like doing and I spend too much time on those things. Some things need to be planned ahead and I find myself wishing, time and time again, that I had set something up with a friend or one my sisters to go for a cup of tea or out for a walk or something more adventurous!
During the summer, my family spent some time visiting with my in-laws on the Sunshine Coast of BC. They have a beautiful home there and some of the more scenic photos on my gallery page were taken from their deck. While we were there I was talking to my mother-in-law, Gloria about this topic of feeling like life is flying by and I'm missing it. I'm not seeing anything, I'm not doing anything. She gave me some good advice. She told me to live intentionally.
Living the life I want doesn't just happen. I have to make it happen. Do I want to get out and do things? Then I need to research fun things happening in my neighbourhood or city and then call a friend and make a plan to go together. Do I want to get fit? Then I am going to need to be working out on a regular basis. I need to make a plan that works around my already busy schedule. If I don't plan for it, I probably won't do it. Do I want to declutter my house? I need to figure out how much time I want to spend per day or per week on that and add it to my schedule.
If you try it out you may start doing this and realize that you have too many things on your list. There wouldn't possibly be enough time to accomplish it all. That's okay. You can then go over your list and make some choices. Cross some things out or make some adjustments. Maybe you can get your kids to help with the housework on Saturday morning and then you can do something together on Saturday afternoon. Or maybe it really doesn't matter if your windows don't get washed until next week (or next month). Maybe you can combine a visit with a friend with a hike and get 2 things done at once. Be creative. Figure things out.
My point is, I don't want to let life just happen to me. I don't know how many days I have been given so I want to live intentionally! I need to take some control and make some decisions! I've got to plan ahead and start appreciating every day I have and living life to the fullest.